One always has to try to heighten their presence in front of others.But if absent on very early stage, your presence will never be felt. However once engaged, and connection is firm; your absence can turn out to be real catalyst.
Once you need to earn your place meaning that you need to earn a place which others around you don’t. If somebody around you has already attained the same place, than question will come up as to why will they miss you? If one is unable to stand in unique manner from others around them, why would person be missed out? It is simple law of economics i.e. law of demand & supply.If what you are offering is already in high supply than how would you attain a unique position?
Bring this given situation at your workplace or home or college. Think about people who you really miss around you. People who you miss have something positive trait. If same is viewed from business perspective, what at work have we got unique to offer.If one wants to be valued, they should be doing something of greater value than others.
Naturally whatever withdraws or whatever becomes scarce suddenly becomes important and gets our respect.
“Absence diminishes minor passions and inflames great ones, as the wind douses a candle and fans a fire.”
~ La Rochefoucauld (1613–1680)
A man said to a Dervish: “Why do I not see you more often?”
The Dervish replied, “Because the words ‘Why have you not been to see me?’ are sweeter to my ear than the words ‘Why have you come again?”’
~ Mulla jami, quoted in ldries Shah’s Caravan of Dreams, 1968
Everything in this world is dependant on presence and absence. A strong presence with unique quality will bring in more power and attention. But in near future you will reach a point where your presence will not be noticed as it was being. It will be like the more you are being noticed the more your value gets degraded. One must learn when to make their presence felt and when to withdraw. It can be summed up as game of hide & seek.
To be more effective, one needs to hide their intentions and speak less. If you believe you are unique and are being taken for granted, start with concealing intentions and follow up with speaking less. Its natural that humans value individuals once they are gone.
Make yourself unique at something which is difficult to find in society and you will be valued. In begining make yourself available and make your presence felt.